This past year I was in two weddings. Both weddings were for friends that I have known since my freshman year of college and had so many fun and wonderful memories with. One of the weddings was a blast from start to finish and I was honored to be there for all of it. The other was hell on earth and we haven’t spoken since.
So obviously when Matt and I had the bridal party talk, we discussed how we did not want to look back on our wedding photos 20 years from now and see people standing next to us that we no longer speak to. We also agreed that we wanted to keep the bridal party on the smaller size, 3-4 maids/groomsmen max.
I don’t know when people normally ask everyone to be in the bridal party so Matt and I just did is as soon as we knew who we wanted. And it didn’t take us much time at all to decide.
I knew my sister would be my maid of honor. We haven’t always been BFF (far from it!) but we have finally fallen into our groove and I couldn’t imagine anyone else being a better maid of honor. I asked her just two days after the proposal and she responded “Well, I’m planning the whole thing anyway so I might as well” yep. Sounds like, Kathy.
When I told Matt that I wanted Sheri to be in the bridal party, he responded, “Obvi”. Sheri and I have known each other since high school, but really became good friends in college and after. We talk all the time about everything and nothing at all and she really knows Matt and me as a couple.
Stephanie was the first friend I called to tell that Matt proposed. In fact, she has been the first person I call for most big news since we were in 1st grade. I am pretty sure we spent more time together than apart from the ages of 7-17 and no matter how long we go between phone chats (she is in Brooklyn now) we always pick up right where we left off.
Vicky, currently living in London, is my far, far away friend. We met in the 6th grade and have been besties ever since. We’ve done everything from skipping school to tan on her trampoline to riding donkeys in Greece so I knew she just had to be a part of this as well.
Having been in weddings I know that it is a big commitment (dress, travel, shower, bachelorette party, etc.) and honestly, I was pretty nervous about asking the girls to be in my wedding. What if they all said no and I had to stand up there alone?! So I did what I do every time I get nervous…found a way to turn it into a joke.
I emailed this to my maids along with the easy-out that I understand it is a lot to ask and they can totally say no and I would still love them forever:
Luckily my friends are all amazing and sent back replies along the lines of “Hell yes. I will rock that dress.” That’s why I love them.
Matt wanted in on the photoshop fun too so he emailed this to his groomsmen (two high school/college friends and two brothers):
With all of these awesome people, we are most definitely putting the party in bridal party.
How did you ask your bridal party to be in the wedding?
How many people were in your wedding?
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